Parents want what is best for their kids, but sometimes mental health can take a backseat when we’re trying to take care of the physical needs of our children. But as kids age and become aware of the real world and ask questions, it’s vital to be present for them emotionally and lift them up as they grow.
Interpreting the World
Of course, parents can juggle all the nuances of raising children, whether it’s emotional or physical. But let’s be honest, parenting is difficult and it can be hard navigating what your child is thinking at any given moment. Kids grow up watching and learning from others, and it’s not always easy to see what they are watching and then interpreting for themselves.
Many Americans put celebrities (or social media stars) on pedestals, and it’s usually for looks or their bodies. Kids can easily turn these viewpoints inward onto themselves, and struggle with body image and self-esteem. Children start internalizing and realizing things about the world at a younger age then we probably assume, so it’s always a good idea to be mindful of what your children are watching and participating in.
Be an Ear
It’s important to listen to your children, and notice any subtle comments they make. Your kids may not even realize they are making assumptions or judging themselves too harshly. But you can listen for any little subtleties that they make and try to correct any negative associations they may have on themselves. Kids need to be built up as they grow and realize that they have potential in anything that they do. Your kids will most likely talk with their friends about some self-esteem issues, but it can be tricky as your kid’s friends may have the same viewpoints and only solidify those negative thoughts. Your kids will need support as they navigate through all the chatter and viewpoints of the world, and be able to talk it out with someone who may have mor experience in the world.
Be Aware
If it seems like your kids can fall prey into those tricky self-esteem issues, tell them that there’s nothing with them, and that we are all individuals. Being able to release those thoughts or do a deeper dive into them is key for your children to better regulate their emotions and realize the faulty emotions they may be experiencing. Let them know that they can write it all out or talk to a professional if they feel they need it. Nobody should feel alone or struggle with self-esteem, so be sure to support your children while they grow.
Katie Kyzivat